Are Tights Men Introverts?

Regular readers of Joy of Tights will know that I'm interested in why some men start taking such an interest in tights.  It occurred to me that it might be because they are introverts.

The terms introvert and extrovert were introduced by Carl Jung.  An introvert is the quiet type of person.  They will prefer their own company.  They do not like being the centre of attention or standing out in crowds.

An introvert will like curling up with a book

Extroverts are just the opposite - they like showing off and being the centre of attention.

Showing off in public is an extrovert trait

An introvert wouldn't show their arse to the world in public

But why should introverted men take such a liking to girls in tights?

Firstly, introverts have a very high level of internal activity in some parts of the brain.  External stimulation overloads them quickly - because they have such a high level to start with.  Perhaps naked flesh is just too much stimulation for these guys - they need it covered with a layer of nylon.

Would the most introverted men find even nude tights too simulating and prefer their woman in opaques?

Too much stimulation here for an introvert - even if most of the girls are in tights?

Secondly, introverts condition more easily.  Apparently if air is puffed into a person's eye (causing them to blink) at the same time as a sound is made, it will require fewer pairing before the introvert blinks at just the sound with no air puff.  (Was Pavlov's dog an introverted canine?).  So the introvert will have to experience fewer sexy woman in tights before he starts associating tights with sexual arousal.

If this guy is an introvert, he could quickly develop a liking for girls in tights and tights feet.

Will the fact she is wearing tights have any long term impact on him?  (BTW like the shoes - hers that is)

Guys leave me a comment if you are an introverted tights lover.  Girls leave me a comment if your man is an introvert who lovers tights.

Is a flash of your tits too much stimulation for him?

How men get addicted to tights etc part 2

Yesterday I suggested that a guys get a strong tights fetish because of association formed between women they were attracted to and the tights the women wore.  A bit like Pavlov's dog.

Bell + food -> salivate

leads to

Bell -> salivate

Except for tights we might crudely express the relationship

Woman + tights -> hard on

leads to

Tights (on legs) -> hard on

Now he doesn't need even the whole woman - just her legs to give the tights shape.

Of course tights usually come with a girl attached so the

tights -> erection

link is strengthened.  The guy may even get

tights (on their own) -> erection

Does this picture turn you on? Oh dear

Now I don't mean to suggest that women set out to give men a tights fetish.  It is sort of an accident.

These girls probably just took their shoes off because their feet were hot (meaning too warm, not that they thought their feet were sexy!).  If any guys form the association between sexy and tights it is an accident.  As Cal pointed out in a recent comment (thanks Cal) most women don't realize guys find tights sexy.  Joy of Tights is unusual because I've had 3 boyfriends (that word dates me), with a tights fetish.

 I doubt even these girls were out to set up a tights fetish.  They just wanted to turn the guy on.

I had promised to list the ways a guy might acquire a tights fetish in later life, but I'm already late for work - so that will have to wait for tomorrow.  This blogging is going to loose me my job.  Yes I am wearing tan tights (Boots 15 den X large), no this picture of ladies at work in tights does not include me.

Poll results.

Legs a surprise winner

Well the great Joy of Tights what kind of a man are you poll is over.  Many thanks the 61 guys who voted.

Out on top, so to speak, were legs with 36 out of 61 votes or 59% of votes.  This was a bit of a surprise - as my experience of tights men is that they are also feet men.

Research indicates feet are about the biggest turn-on imaginable. In order to estimate the relative frequency of fetishes, researchers at the University of Bologna examined 381 internet discussions of fetish groups, in which at least 5,000 people had been participating. Researchers estimated the prevalence of different fetishes based on the following elements:

(a) the number of discussion groups devoted to a particular fetish
(b) the number of individuals participating in the groups; and
(c) the number of messages exchanged.

It was concluded that the most common fetishes were for body parts or for objects usually associated with body parts (33% and 30% respectively). Among those people preferring body parts, feet and toes were preferred by the greatest number, with 47% of those sampled preferring them. Among those people (mostly males) preferring objects related to body parts, footwear (shoes, boots, etc.) was most preferred (64%).

So to do the Math

• 33% x 47% = 16% of men like feet
• 30% x 64% = 19% of men like shoes (but not, apparently, shoe shops, sorry girls)

 More direct evidence goes in the same direction.  A 2007 study published in the International Journal of Impotence Research found that feet (and their little piggies) were the most highly fetishized body part, with nearly half of the thousands of survey respondents choosing them over all others (and that includes tits and butts!)

Why? No one is entirely sure. There are those who believe that feet and genitals are closely connected in brain circuitry. Others suggest it may simply be that feet lead to legs, and legs lead to genitals.

Some researchers have hypothesized that foot fetishism increases as a response to epidemics of sexually transmitted diseases. In one study, conducted by Dr. A James Giannini at Ohio State University an increased interest in feet as sexual objects was observed during the great gonorrhea epidemic of twelfth century Europe, and the syphilis epidemics of the 16th and 19th centuries in Europe. In the same study, the frequency of foot-fetish depictions in pornographic literature was measured over a 30 year interval. An exponential increase was noted during the period of the current AIDS epidemic. In these cases, sexual foot play was viewed as a safe-sex alternative.

Is he hoping for safe foot sex?

Yet feet scored 20 out of 61 votes of 32%.  Well OK that is greater than the University of Bologna study, but legs are still greater.

For all you guys who voted for legs

Well I suppose feet are attached to legs.  Perhaps these guys like feet, but like to see feet in the context of the whole leg.  Maybe it was the way I asked the question.  If you meet a woman at a pub or at work, it is usually difficult to look at her feet first because they are in shoes.  And of course all this may just be an artifact of my very small sample size.

I did find one writer (in Essence) who reckons legs are the tops. Having asked this question - "What do to find most sexy" to over 1,000 men in the last 3 years, she has come up with her top 13.  Number 1 appears to be legs.  This writer goes on to say

"You’ve heard of a “breast man” and “butt man” types, but there is a third type of man out there, and he ain’t playin’. Meet the “lower limb lover” aka the “leg man.” When I recently polled a few hundred men on Twitter, “legs” was by far the number one sexy thing about a woman."

For all you guys answering that Twitter survey, she is letting you see as much leg as she can.  And yes and the top of legs is pussy.  (Like you didn't know)

But then again, at number 3 come (cum?) shoes

"Shocker: Men look at shoes, too. Five to six-inch heels will get his attention — trust me". 

So we are back to feet again.

Killer heels?

Just a little bit of foot bondage

Companies know the power of the high heel to sell things to guys

Interestingly the things the media thinks guys like (tits and bums - just look at page 3 of the Sun), come in last.  Tits get four votes (6%), and bums one vote (1% when you round up).

For the tit men - but with a bit of leg and foot thrown in

And one for the arse man (singular)

Cheerleaders

Readers of Sunday's post may have been upset that I talked about football without mentioning cheerleaders.  Of course I was talking about soccer rather than American football which tends not to have cheerleaders in the same way.  Nevertheless, time for some cheerleader pics.

I think cheer leaders wearing pantyhose is cool.  Why?  Short answer men are very simple creatures.  OK longer answer.  Men learn just like Pavlov's dog.

• Man sees sexy cheer leader in pantyhose.
• Man's small brain associates "pantyhose" with "sexy"
• Man sees another girl in pantyhose and his feels in his cock "sexy" because of the association he made before.

So those of us who are less stunning or wearing more clothes are still seen as sexy because of the way the guy's neurons wired up.

The same applies to Hooter's girls.....

Thank them for helping you to look sexy in your tan tights

So don't despise those bunnies, girls.  They are helping you look sexy.

Of course unlike Hooters girls, cheer leaders wear real tights - that's tights with feet.

Now it is perfectly understandable that Hooters girls wear footless tights.  They are in tights for a long shift and their feet would get so smelly.  (OK I know that turns some of you guys on - but its not good for their foot health).  Cheerleaders are not in tights for so long, so can get away with the footed variety.

I wouldn't like those guys with a foot fetish to think none of the rest of us wear tights with feet.  I need all the help I can get getting a man, even if it involves covering my feet in nylon

And thanks also to girl marching band and all those other girls helping men to associate tights with sexy.

Porn again
Of course since men find cheerleaders so sexy often soft porn shots often use cheer leader consumes (as they use Hooters uniforms).  But even porn can wire men's brains to make us look sexy in tights.

Genuine cheerleader posing for a naughty shot

Now guys what are you wanking over?  Looking at their feet or somewhere else?

Hooter's Girl tied up at work - notice she is in tights with feet

Even my tights heroine Sweet keeps up the Hooter's Girls in footed tights myth

Tights at work a psychologist speaks

If you can to wear tights keep them pulled up

Well the period of bank holidays is over.  Back to dealing with grumpy old men in the call centre cattle pen.  So that perenial questions - tights, trousers or bare legs at work?  Well a little by LisaMarie Luccioni (don't you love the way these guys have CAPITALS in the middle of their names), gives a few pointers.


1. Dress code of lack of dress code
LisaMarie is surprised at the lack of dress codes, or the ill-definition of dress codes, which means some women wear tights and do don't.  But if you do have a strict dress code - like Hooters waitresses or air cabin crew - then there is your answer.  My own view is it can't be wrong to wear tights, so if you aren't sure go for the tights option.  No one gets sacked for looking too smart.  Tights for girls are like ties for guys.  Sure, they may be a pain - but they tell others we are taking the job seriously.  And with low denier tights you can even wear with relative comfort in summer.

Pantyhose are very much part of Hooters dress code

Low denier tights with blouse and skirt for smart office work in warm weather

Off to court?

Sometimes there can be an unwritten dress code and not following that can say something negative.  A respondent to LisaMarie who has not been wearing tights for a while thinks they might be in her client's best interests:

"Perhaps members of my jury panel see the fact that I don't wear hose in a different way than I (and most women criminal defense lawyers here in Houston.) They might see it as a lack of respect, or in some other negative light. (Women can be so judgmental of other women, and older men can be harsh, too.)  ..... I'll consider donning a pair of hose for my next trial. It might make a difference, and sometimes it is definitely the little things that count."

Now it may not say much for male rationality , but I'd bet them jurers are less likely to send the guy to fry if they like his lawyers legs.

Tights are good with pale skin

2. Aesthetic of feet and legs
If your legs and feet look like crap it doesn't give a very good image and may distract your co-workers (my paraphrase).  LisaMarie mentions leg stuble, poor pedicure and lilly white skin.  I would add to that cellulite, poor leg shape (chubby) and well aged legs and feet (I can say that as an old hag myself).  Now of course trousers (pants in the US OK - no sniggering) or a long skirt may be an alternative.  But if you have reasonble leg shape why not show it off?  Baggy pants shout "I've got something to hide"! 

One of the responents to LisaMarie's article puts it very nicely:

Tights - a good move

"Even the most active and tanned or naturally non-pale of us, and even the youngest, has some imperfect skin, with veins, pores, hair roots, blemishes, dry patches, wrinkles, uneven coloration and/or blotchiness. Exposing acres of all this to our colleagues is not looking our best. We all benefit from the smoothing out of flaws, the evening out of texture, the enriching and enhancement of color, and, depending on what hose we wear, the provision of a flattering "outline" effect at the edge of our legs and/or a hint of extra glow.

It's like makeup. Most of us are acutely aware, by having stared in the mirror so much, of our facial flaws, and welcome what makeup can do for us. We typically wear at least some of it to any destination we care about (work, date, social gathering), and brush off rants that it's unnatural, stifling, etc."

We need tights at our age!

3. Occupation

Would you buy this house off me?

Hey I'm so creative

LisaMarie mentions banking, law and finance where tights give a suitable seriousness and gravitas.  I would also say that in these areas you need traditional sheer black or tan or opaque blacks.  It not just high flyers who need tights.  If you work in your local bank or solicitors office tights give the right impression.  And of course if you work at the local undertakers (sorry funeral directors) or in the office at your local crematorium black tights are de-rigor.  In such final situations sheer blacks much more than pants or opaques show that you have made the effort, its not every day that, for example, a guy see's his girlfriend sent off for incineration, and the least the staff can do is dress up for the occasion.  At the opposite extreme, bright tights, patterned tights or outrageous tights may be just the thing in the creative industries, to show you are, well, creative.  Bare legs will just show a lack of imagination.

Would teachers get more respect in tights

Even if you do not wear tights regularly in your job they may be a good move when called in to see the big boss or when being interviewed for promotion.

Which of us gets the job?

4. Power
Now this is one LisaMarie doesn't mention herself.  If your co-workers are leg men or indeed feet men (don't forget feet are one of the top body part fetishes), tights can make your legs look better, and make the guys much more helpful.  They won't be able to help themselves in an effort to mate with you (sorry guys are just like that), and they'll fall over themselves to be helpful, or (in  the case of custmers) buy things from you.

For the feet men in her office

Sexual power

This point is taken up by a male respondent to LisaMarie

"This is a Psychology Today blog, correct? Are you not missing part of the picture? We are animals. Animals are constantly going through sexual power struggles and pantyhose are a weapon in this struggle  Women who wear pantyhose have power over (many) men in the office...and in the courtroom.  Just examine studies of telemarketers wearing suits vs. telemarketers in shorts and t-shirts. Those in suits came across as more professional and effective as opposed to the casually attired.

Mad Men. This is the program which sets an example of the underlying current of sex and power in the office. Not one bare leg in at all. Every calf and thigh is covered in sheer nylon and the sounds of nylon, seductivly rubbing together has the men in the office...trembling.

A woman in a snappy power suit, serious heels, and high-quality hosiery COMMANDS attention and respect. Little miss Buffy in her bare legs is ignored...yes, ignored.  You want to be thought of in terms of your mind...but we are animals...and it's all about the plumiage....THEN your mind."

This is taking pantyhose power a bit far!

Now I'm note sure Mad Men is a good source of evidence (fiction, remember?) but otherwise I think this guy makes some good points - fueled by the fact he probably wanks himself off thinking about being under the hosed feet of a woman who COMMANDS attension.

Now in an all women work place it is different.  But here tights aid you in your competition.  Sure us girls are much less aggressive and competitive than men - right up on the point you want to a give that bitch in accounts a good kicking.  And if you can't give her a good kicking at least your legs in tights are better than her scabby cellulite inflated hairly bare legs.  The bitch couldn't even organise herself to put a pair of tights on, how the fuck can she run the office?

I COMMAND you

And finally a story from Walter

Femine enough to be respected

"I would like to tell a story.  Some time ago a close girlfriend of me had some sad feelings about her work (She's an accountant at a big company). Although she likes her work, there were no complaints or something, she didn't feel really accepted and respected.   I knew she didn't really dress up to go to work, mostly 'comfy' clothing like jeans and flat shoes...  So I gently said her maybe she should dress more feminin. Some make-up, skirt, shoes with some heel, pantyhose, maybe even a real business suit.  Well, some time later we met again and I thought omg what a woman!  Yes, she's wearing skirts and dresses (with heels and pantyhose) now, certainly for work and ... it works. Now she gets a lot more attention of her colleagues (male and female) and the work goes a lot easier and smoother. For meetings she now wears a business suit and she noticed she's really respected now"

Reference
Pantyhose at Work: A Woman's Bondage or her Best Behavior?Pantyhose at Work: A Woman's Bondage or her Best Behavior?